I’ve been told many times that I should be comfortable in the skin I’m in. And until recently, I thought I was doing a good job of it. My mistake was in taking the saying literally and only thinking skin deep.
I am comfortable in my curvy, over-sized body. I learned to be quite comfortable going without makeup on a day-to-day basis. Being 5’10” doesn’t stop me from wearing 5″ inch heels. And although when I was younger I unsuccessfully begged my parents to have braces to straighten my teeth, J. Cole taught me to embrace my crooked smile. I am comfortable with my body.
However, I am not always comfortable being myself. In many situations, I change my behavior and suppress my opinions, because I am afraid that I may cause others discomfort. At least, that’s the reason I told myself. I convinced myself that I was changing or filtering who I really was for the good of others. In reality, I was changing by behaviors and actions so I could be the person everybody likes.
But being comfortable in your own skin also means being who you really are, no matter what situation you are in. It means voicing your opinion when you don’t agree with something, even if you’re the only person with that opinion. It means not changing your behavior around strangers. It means “doing you” even if it makes you an outlier or doesn’t please others. Being comfortable in your skin mean putting your true self out there consistently, and not worrying about who is judging you. Not everyone is going to agree with you. Not everyone is going to like you. But you should learn to be comfortable with that. Just be yourself.