I was heartbroken when I found out Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher were getting a divorce. Although half the news coming from Hollywood is about couples breaking up and, even though I fail miserably at having serious relationships, I still believe in committed, life-long, for-ever-and-ever relationships. Demi and Ashton just seemed like that type of couple to me, (then again, so did J.Lo and Marc Anthony; I may just have bad judgement).
Their split made me think about how little “love” seems to last. About half of all marriages in the US end in divorce. We constantly hear about them in the news and see their effects in movies. We ‘re so used to hearing about divorce that it’s not a big deal anymore. You would think divorce is just the next step after marriage.
However, my logical friends, if half of all marriages end in divorce, that means there is another 50% of marriages that do not!
A few days ago, I went to visit my parents. I was having coffee with my mom. My mom and I are great friends, so I was telling her how dating in my generation, especially in college, is different than when she used to date. I was trying to explain that the hooking-up culture is taking over the dating culture.
“People don’t really date, Mom.”
“People don’t go out on dates. They meet someone, hang out, and have something going on, but they don’t label it. They just hook up.”
“That’s not true.”
“Yeah, it is, Mom.”
“I still date.”
“No, your married, not dating.”
“Nope. Your dad still takes me out and brings me flowers.” She points at a huge bouquet on the table. “He dates me.”
🙂 My parents are adorable. They’re celebrating their 26th anniversary at the end of this year. I looked through the family camera, and my mom wasn’t kidding. There are pictures of my parents at a Giants game, walking at the beach, together at a garden show, and at lots of other cute dates. More, importantly, they’re always smiling in those pictures.
I don’t know what the secret is to keeping a marriage going, but if 50% of marriages are doing it, it’s possible.
In honor of my parents’ loving marriage, and all those other 50% of couples that remain together through thick and thin, (including Gloria and Emilio Estefan: 30+ years! that translates to about 100 Hollywood years), I would like to give you a well-deserved toast. You deserve it. Way to go. Keep it up. Thank you for giving us unmarried folk hope.